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How to attract all the guys?

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Here are some tips and tricks from relationship and matchmaking experts that can help you get a man to focus his attention on you.

"Go to places that make you happy, where men happen to be," advises Tina Tessina, Ph.D., author of "How to Be Happy Partners: Working it out Together". A man is going to notice a woman who is having a good time and relaxing.

Stay away from hiding yourself in the corner, with furniture or plants. It's important to find something useful to do wherever you are (whether it's chiming in on a group conversation or deftly maneuvering your way to the bar) because guys will notice you're being active, and not trying to play hide and seek.

As 1950s as this sounds, men really like being helpful. Open up about a challenging situation at work or ask him for an app recommendation. "Think of whatever you can ask him that makes him thinks he's smart — other than his stomach, through helpfulness is the best way to get to him," said Tessina.

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Talk about little things you do, like keeping fresh flowers at home, doing yoga, reading a book every week, or getting a good night's sleep, said Emily Holmes Hahn, founder of LastFirst bespoke matchmaking club. They might seem insignificant, but any sign of a "centered and balanced lifestyle" is encouraging, she said.

Guys don't understand fashion trends, so save your off-the-shoulder, ruffled crop top for a girl's night. The best way to catch a man's eye is to wear something timeless — a classic outfit that is comfortable and you know works for you.

Both Tessina and Hahn recommend some classic, direct eye contact. (But don't stare them down, either.) Some friendly eye to eye will let him know you're interested, so don't be afraid to eye-flirt across the room!

"Don't name drop!" cautioned Hahn. If a man compliments something you're wearing, you shouldn't name drop the brand, because you might come off as materialistic. "You should say you're happy they noticed and quickly transition into another conversation," she said.

The same goes for food and drink locations; even if you go to the coolest bars and restaurants, you should talk about more under the radar spots. You'll have a more interesting chat by being quirky, as opposed to appearing to know it all.

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Tessina advises against surrounding yourself with a "gaggle of girls" when going out. You'll be hard to single out if you're in a group.

If you do go out in a group, try to stand out from the crowd or find a way to get by yourself for a bit.

Make it clear you have something appealing about you by commenting on the conversation the guy you have your eye on is having; show off your brains and personality, not just your looks. "We have such a hard focus on looks right now that it's refreshing to see a woman who is as fun as she is interesting and intriguing," said Tessina.

It turns out men actually get annoyed when women don't say thank you, according to Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher, founders of the matchmaking company Project Soulmate. "Even the most confident guy needs a thank you," said Zucher. You don't even have to say it in person — grab his number and text it after he buys you a drink. "Something about seeing it in writing feels better, and it's such an easy way to appreciate somebody."

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It's a small world, and while your head is down Instagraming your oysters, you could be meeting someone that's right next to you. Even if you're in the elevator, make an effort to not look at your phone and see who is around. It's refreshing for a guy to see a woman that's not glued to Snapchat or taking a selfie.

Bring a book to read at the bar. Guys are looking for a reason to come up to you, said Emma Tessler, founder of the matchmaking company The Dating Ring, so give him a unique one. If reading's not your thing, bring a sketchbook, journal or whatever hobby you have that you can take to-go.

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There’s an evolutionary secret that can help you understand how to attract men and make them desire you instantly. And the real secret’s right here. It’s not just about a few tips or moves to get a guy interested in you.

If you understand the very real idea behind attraction, you’ll see everything in a whole new way. The science of attraction between the sexes, as complicated as it may seem, is pretty simple to explain in a few lines.

From hundreds of studies and research over the decades, we’ve learned that girls are more easily attracted to a guy who appears healthy and stress-free, has a good level of testosterone which makes him appear more manly and chiseled, and has a protective streak in him which makes him a good mate material and a father.

Guys, on the other hand, are more easily attracted to girls based on their appearance or behavior.

But that’s not it though.

To truly understand how to attract men and how a man’s mind works, we need to get deeper into the concept of attraction from the male point of view.

A guy may like a girl for different reasons. But when it comes to physical or sexual attraction at first sight, her physical appearance and her behavior matters more than anything else. We’re just being honest here. And we all need a foundation to start with.

So if you want to attract a man and make him desire you, you just need to get his attention the right way. Read these 22 ways to get a guy’s attention in any circumstance and you’ll be sure to catch his eye in the first place.

But here’s the key thought to remember. And you need to keep this in mind. Love and attraction are two completely different things. A guy may find you extremely attractive and sexy, and yet he may not end up falling in love with you. To be drawn to a woman, there are things that are far more important than just looking “sexy”.

Of course, for love to blossom in the first place, it’s important to attract him and build the sexual attraction with him. But to make him fall in love with you, he needs to feel emotionally connected to you. Want to know more about how that works, read this feature on how men actually fall in love and the 7 stages they go through before they fall for someone.

As we know that physical attraction plays a very big part in attracting a guy, you need to understand what a guy’s mind tells him when he sees you and sizes you up sexually.

When a guy sees a girl’s physical assets, he subconsciously sees more than just your breasts or your butt. The right curves in all the right places tells a guy that a girl is fertile and has come of age, and that she’s healthy because her body can afford to waste energy on developing her curves which play the biggest role in sexual attraction.

A guy may think a girl is attractive. But in his subconscious mind, he’s gauging you as the woman who may carry his offspring one day. Of course, it doesn’t matter if you’re looking for a fling or a partner, this is just what a man subconsciously sees in a woman if he intends to approach her. [Read: Evolution and the parts of a woman’s body that has the biggest impact on men]

Every man produces testosterone, a sexual hormone, in his testes. And women produce a small amount of testosterone in their ovaries. The more testosterone a man produces, the more manly he looks and the more sexually virile he is. His facial features appear manlier, his jaws are wider and more chiseled and his voice is deeper.

And several studies have shown that the more manly a man is, the more attracted he’d be to women who exhibit feminine traits. Here are 20 things that make a woman appear more feminine in a guy’s eyes if you’re interested in knowing what guys consider feminine and what they don’t.

On the other hand, a small percentage of men who produce a lesser-than-normal amount of testosterone may find themselves getting more attracted to women who are less feminine and more controlling and dominant in the relationship.

So if you’re trying to catch the attention of a masculine guy *a large percentage of men have normal or high production of testosterone even though the overall average testosterone levels have dropped significantly in American men over the last 50 years*, chances are, he’d love you if your behavior is more feminine, cute and girly! [Read: Do guys prefer dating cute, shy girls over other girls?]

A regular masculine man who isn’t suffering from low testosterone would always find a feminine woman more attractive than a woman who thinks femininity is overrated and displays traits that are traditionally considered masculine.

While a girl’s physical appearance is the biggest sign of femininity, at times, it helps if you can display more femininity in your behavior. No, I’m not saying pink frills and scented paper. But there are always other ways to appear cuter and get a guy to take a second and third look at you. [Read: The different masculine and feminine traits and how they differ from each other]

Traditionally, men have always been the more aggressive gender in the human species. They’re usually the ones who spread their legs wider, stand taller and swell their chest up while trying to appear threatening all the time, more so when they’re in an argument or when they meet someone they see as a threat in any manner.

But femininity changes everything. When a girl behaves in a cute and feminine manner, it brings out the protective instincts of a man. Instead of feeling threatened by a feminine girl, he feels vulnerable around her, and protective about her. That makes him feel more masculine, and that’s something every guy loves to feel! [Read: Why men love a damsel in distress and feel more emotionally connected to them]

When a girl reveals her feminine side to a guy, it’s very hard for any guy to ignore her or avoid noticing her vulnerability. And the instant his mind connects with her vulnerability, it eliminates any thoughts of a threat and his protective side creates a bond of protection and attachment with her.

He feels the need to be around her, and his subconscious mind tries very hard to make her feel protected, comfortable and loved around him.

He loses his aggressive stance, the tone of his voice softens, and his shoulders droop down towards her instead of spreading wide. And before he even gives attraction a second thought, he’d realize that he likes the girl already!

If you’re wondering how to talk to him in a way that brings out this protectiveness, use these 34 powerful yet cute ways to sweet talk to a guy and reveal his masculinity.

When it comes to knowing how to attract a guy, many girls are against the idea of being too feminine or behaving in a cute manner. To a typical modern day woman, behaving in a demure or coy manner is a sign of weakness. And they can’t accept that a guy finds a cute girl more attractive than a girl who likes to take on a masculine role in the relationship. [Read: 40 traits of a feminine man who prefers masculine women in the relationship]

If you’re feminine, you don’t really have to be cute or act dumb. You can just be yourself! But if you can reveal more of your feminine traits to a guy, it would only add to your allure and make you more desirable among men.

Instead of looking down at a girl who considers herself cute *or behaves in a cute manner*, try to see how she behaves. Most feminine women are not meek or silly, nor do they have to behave like stupid bimbos to win a guy’s affection.

All they do is flaunt what sets them apart from men, and that’s their femininity and grace. With that small behavioral change, they end up becoming women who can control powerful men and wrap them around their little pinky! [Read: The easiest ways to become a lot more graceful and feminine]

And no testosterone laden guy can resist the allure of a feminine girl when he’s having a conversation with her. Everything about them makes them appear more beautiful and feminine, right from their cute expressions, the way they nod their head, the way they behave while having a conversation with a man, to the way they smile coyly and yet so warmly.

Femininity comes naturally to most girls, but it’s an art that’s worth honing. If you want to know how to attract men, all you need to do is exude your feminine side while talking to them. And once you try that, you’ll know what I’m talking about.

And remember, a cute girl who displays her feminine side will always have an edge over all other girls when she’s trying to catch the attention of a masculine man! Want to know how you can be more feminine effortlessly? Use these 25 tips on how to look cute and exude femininity and you’ll be able to attract men without even trying!

To most women, femininity comes naturally. But cuteness can be created by the way you behave.

If you’re spending time with a guy and want to come across as a girl who’s in touch with her femininity, there are many things you can do effortlessly!

1. Talk in a soft tone, if it’s a guy you’re trying to attract.

2. Smile more often. A smile can make you appear more pleasant and friendly.

3. Run your fingers through your hair delicately. Always works for any guy!

4. Tip your head slightly downwards when you’re blushing or smiling, and look at him from under your eyebrow.

These four simple tips may sound bizarre to someone who’s against displaying “girly” traits, but it will do wonders for your date!

You may be wondering why we haven’t shared more tips on how to attract men here. That’s because we have lots of them on LovePanky already. What we’re trying to get you to understand here is just what works best when it comes to knowing how to attract a man with the least possible effort!

If you want more tips, read any of these helpful features on how to attract men, and you’ll be able to impress and seduce any guy within the first conversation with him! *all of these links will open in a new tab*

Want to know how to flirt, but don’t think you’re a flirty girl? Use this guide on how to flirt with a guy without really flirting at all to talk as you normally would, but with a few flirty differences!

Want to attract a guy? Try these 25 charming ways to make a guy fall in love with you.

Looking for the subtlest ways to make him desire you? Use these 20 subtle ways to get a man to chase you!

And finally, if you want to seduce a man, master these 33 ways to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and hook him hard with your femininity.

Contrary to popular belief, don’t be yourself. Evolve.

When someone tells you that the best way to attract someone is by being yourself, well, they’re not entirely right. All of us change all the time. And not every change that we see in ourselves may be in the right direction.

Who are you? How would you define yourself? We are who we are because of our socioeconomic status, the people around us, social media, your current desires and wants, and other influences we’ve had in our lifetime. We change all the time, heck, you’re not who you were last year, are you?

A lucky few may have had the opportunity to be influenced by the perfect role models, while most of us have to change to become better individuals. Or worse, we never get to become better individuals or achieve the full potential that’s within us because we’re convinced we’re all perfect already. We’re bull-headed and believe in something, and don’t want to change no matter what! [Read: 25 life-changing lessons you need to learn to perfect your life]

You don’t have to change yourself just to attract men, but change yourself to become a better you. Have you ever walked into a room full of attractive women, and found yourself thinking that a few of those girls were better than you in some way?

When you meet a woman and find yourself in awe of her for any reason at all, it only means you admire and desire some particular trait of hers that you lack yourself.

If you like a trait about a friend, be it her spontaneity, her courage, her carefree attitude, her posture, or the way she dresses up, your mind may subconsciously like that trait because you want to see that trait in yourself. A change of this kind is good, where you see something you like and want to see that in yourself. [Read: Why inner beauty is far more important than outer beauty in attracting someone]

A girl who is the epitome of perfection in every way *if she does exist* won’t be awed by anyone else. On the other hand, everywhere she goes, she’d be the girl that would receive compliments, stares and awed jaws!

So change often, become the dream girl you fantasize about in your head, and be the girl you really want to be. And life will turn out to be so much better for you, be it about men, work, friends or anything else.

It’s easy to push a thought away and assume it’s wrong to be feminine or assume it’s a bad thing to change. But change is good. And change is inevitable. You’re going to change whether you like it or not. And you have a choice to become a better you, or a worse you. [Read: How to achieve perfection in every step you take]

We’re all animals, and you shouldn’t forget that. We may be wearing pants *or skirts!* or walking on two feet, but that doesn’t change our primal instincts. We still chase each other and woo each other just like animals in the wild. [Read: 23 must-know relationship advice for women]

The male and female sexes still play games to win each other’s affection. Human males still like to woo a female through their display of brute strength, power or their sheer awesomeness. And a man laden with male hormones wants a woman who’s graceful and feminine, because subconsciously, it makes him feel more like a man.

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Answer # 3 #
  • Go for a sunny, high-energy vibe.
  • Compliment him.
  • Talk about your passions.
  • Smile.
  • Make lots of eye contact.
  • Wear flattering, classic looks.
  • Stick with natural-looking makeup.
  • Play with your hair.
Rina Adebayo