Park Berkowitz

Author’s note: this post was written in 2016 during a difficult period when my wife and separated — for 3 years. We are now back together (April, 2020)

She asked me, “what’s the difference between a good relationship and a lover?”.

The answer could be complicated! But for me it boils down to something like this:

(And by the way, I mean “sexual” in its full gambit of intimacy and exploration and safety.)

“But can’t a good relationship include the lover?”, she responded.

Absolutely, a perfect match, a perfect relationship, includes a perfect friend, husband, father, and lover — and soulmate. That’s our dream come true, right?

A relationship is broader and rarely as intense

Having a lover is focused on the thrill and joy of exploring your sexuality and deep intimacy in a mutually judgement-free way. It allows you to explore intimacy in a way which empowers your womanhood and confidence.

You feel totally sexually fulfilled, and happy to be with your lover. It has a small, exciting element of risk because it is so intimate — the thrill of risk.

A lover holds you, caresses you, touches you, kisses you, runs his fingers through your hair while talking about things like this.

Having a “relationship” satisfies broader requirements and expectations, some of which require compromises including sexual compromises.

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