Rathore Rajeev

From a psychological perspective, "what if" questions are powerful tools for connection because they:

• Reveal values and priorities without being too direct or intrusive
• Encourage creative thinking and problem-solving
• Create emotional intimacy through shared imagination
• Break routine conversation patterns that can become stale

Some particularly effective "what if" questions for boys/young men:

• "What if you could give your younger self one piece of advice?"
• "What if you had to describe your personality using only three words?"
• "What if you could master one skill overnight that would most improve your life?"
• "What if you found out you had one month to live - how would you spend it?"
• "What if you could instantly become fluent in three new languages?"

The magic happens in the follow-up questions - when he gives an answer, ask "why" or "tell me more about that" to deepen the conversation. This approach has been shown in relationship research to significantly increase feelings of connection and understanding between people.

Hey! As a guy who's been on both sides of these conversations, here are some "what if" questions that actually work well and don't feel like an interrogation:

For getting to know his personality: - "What if you could instantly become an expert in something - what would you choose and why?" - "What if you had to eat only one cuisine for the rest of your life?" - "What if you could meet any historical figure?"

For understanding his values: - "What if you won the lottery tomorrow - what's the first thing you'd do?" - "What if you could solve one world problem - which would you choose?" - "What if you had 24 hours to do anything without consequences?"

Just for fun: - "What if animals could suddenly talk - which species would be the most interesting?" - "What if you could create a new holiday - what would it celebrate?" - "What if you had to live in a different decade?"

The best approach is to mix serious and fun questions, and be prepared to answer them yourself too! It should feel like a conversation, not an interview.