What does it mean when a guy lets you touch his face?

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of a conversation with someone and wondered, “Is he/she flirting with me?” Or better yet, “Am I flirting with him/her?” Oftentimes, we aren’t even aware that our body is sending steamy messages to our object of desire. Whether those sidelong glances are innocent or indecent is an issue upon which even experts disagree.

Sexual psychophysiologist Nicole Prause, Ph.D, thinks that flirting “is almost always a sign of sexual arousal.” On the other hand, Suzanna Matthews, The Date Maven, claims that platonic flirting provides social, not sexual, lubrication.Fran Greene, author of The Flirting Bible agrees: “Flirting is not seduction, [it’s] about practicing good social skills.” She admits, however, that even friendly flirting triggers the sympathetic nervous system, resulting in a host of body changes.

Though you can’t know how far things will go, here are some early physical signs flashing the message that you, or someone close by, have boarded the flirt train. If you’re trying to pick up what they’re putting down, these non-verbal cues can speak louder than words.

The Hands

Things may start slowly, with a few tentative forays into body contact. “An example of non-sexual touch might be a hand behind a shoulder to indicate that the person should move first through a door, or a hand on the back sharing a laugh,” said Prause. From a simple touch, the body responds. “Touching increases the availability of oxytocin and vasopressin in the body, which are strongly associated with sexual response,” she explained.

Even more subtle, but very sexy, touching your face, lips, neck, quickly and softly is a flirt alert, according to Toni Coleman, psychotherapist, relationship coach and expert in nonverbal communication. For women, twirling a strand of hair around a finger, tossing hair from the shoulder to expose bare skin, and running a hand through their hair are all signs of interest.

The Eyes

While you’re trying to play it cool, your eyes may give you away by moving in a particular pattern. People often do it naturally and subtly without even being aware of it when they’re attracted to someone; it’s called “the triangulated gaze,” according to Matthews. “This is where your eyes move in a triangular fashion from left to right across someone’s eyes then down to his or her mouth and back up. So, looking from eye to eye to lips in a smooth, swift motion.”

If you want your triangulated gaze to burst with romantic firepower, “you should be wearing a warm, engaging expression on your face while doing it,” advised Matthews. And put your damn phone down. “These days, with so many of our heads buried in our [mobile devices], even [the most] basic eye contact could be considered flirting,” said radio personality Kevin Klein.

The Pelvis

Eyes may offer a window on the soul, but ardent passion also shimmies to life, as Shakira sings in “Hips Don’t Lie.” According to Matthews, if a woman is talking to a few different people, her hips and pelvis will be oriented toward the guy she’s most interested in. Matthews adds that “a woman’s shoulders or face might be angled in one direction and her pelvis angled in another if she’s politely listening to someone on one side but trying to give cues that she’s actually attracted to someone else on the other side.”

The Chest and Stance

One of the ways a man will flirt, according to Greene, is by placing his feet about 18 inches apart to mark his territory when he’s on the make. Like other amorous animals, men do this to “mark their territory,” she said. Men, like peacocks, gorillas and codfish, will puff out their chest as well—another postural message found throughout the animal kingdom. They also preen; for instance, removing lint from a suit jacket, straightening a tie or pulling up socks.

The Mouth

Of course, a smile is hard to misinterpret, but perhaps the most sought-after signal by men is a woman biting or licking her lips. This is not just a subconscious gesture: women’s mouths become dry if they’re feeling excited or aroused, as our stress hormones trigger our evolutionary fear/flight response during the mating ritual. So ladies, remember to sip to keep the conversation flowing freely.

The Bladder

Not every physiological change is apparent to the naked eye. When the love fires start to burn, you may actually need to excuse yourself for a restroom visit more often. “Sexual interest and arousal increases the speed of urine production in the body,” said Prause. (Though perhaps those frequent restroom visits could also be from drinking more to relieve that dry mouth.)

Most women focus on what a guy means when he texts, what he says in his texts, and also the timing of his texts and the ways he texts! It’s a handful, but sometimes, when a guy touches you when he’s around, and specifically places his hand on a certain body part out of the blue *sometimes unnecessarily!* it reveals a lot more about his intentions and what’s on his mind right at that moment!

Want to know the most obvious signs for when a guy touches you and the hidden meanings behind each specific body part? You’ll learn it all here.

We like to think communication is all about words, but at the end of the day, you can tell a lot about someone and how they’re feeling based on their body language.

Now, your eyes will focus on his touch and where he touches you. Okay, of course, there’s the obvious signs of touch. If his hands are all around your reproductive area, well, we don’t need to think twice about what that means.

[Read: How to tell if a guy is aroused around you – 22 signs your presence turns him on]

If you like a guy and he touches your back, you’re probably wondering if that means anything. If it does, what does it mean. I went through university trying to figure out these small signs. Luckily, I’m writing this feature so you don’t have to lose your mind trying to analyze everything to death. I’m a girl, I know how we think.

So, stop overthinking his texts and status updates because everything you need to know relies on how he touches you and the body part he lays his hands on. And if he doesn’t touch you at all, it looks like I just answered that question. When a guy touches you, every touch means something. [Read: The 20 types of physical touches and what each touch means]

If he catches you from slipping, it doesn’t mean he’s going to get down on one knee. But if he’s touching you in general especially when you’re spending time together, it’s a good sign that he’s attracted to you.

I don’t know what level of the attraction, but it’s safe to say that he at least finds you attractive. Whether he’s going to act on that is something different. [Read: Is he attracted to you? 16 clear giveaways that can’t be hidden]

What does it mean if a guy touches you a lot? If he’s trying to find a way to touch you as much as he can, he’s probably into you. He hugs you, finds an excuse to touch your face, back or arms on a daily basis. This isn’t a once-in-awhile touch to let you know the bus is here, or that your phone is ringing. It’s more than that.

A person’s face is what basically makes us attracted to them. Crazy, right? It’s not the six-pack abs or tight ass, it’s the face. Now, if he’s touching your face, this probably means you’re already comfortable with him. We don’t let just anyone touch our face.

The face has a pair of luscious lips on them which is always associated as being sensual and intimate. So, if he touches your face, or strokes your cheeks, he wants to be sexually close with you. [Read: The not-so-obvious things that makes a man attracted to a woman]

Listen, girls, if a guy touches your hips, I mean, he could have touched you anywhere else but he chose the hips, this guy wants you. When a man touches your hips, he’s trying to get you closer to him and/or admire your body which he wants a piece of right now. This is a huge sign he’s sexually attracted to you, and wants that hip close to his!

The whole concept is hair is very interesting. You can actually tell a lot about a person by their hair. But when a man touches your hair, this means something else.

What this actually means is that they like your personality. It also means he’s comfortable around you. Sadly, this isn’t a straight giveaway for saying he has feelings for you, but it does show that he likes you as a person. [Read: Are we just friends or is he interested? The subtle signs that show them apart]

There are two main areas of the back: upper and lower. Shockingly, both areas signify different things, so pay attention. If a guy is touching the upper area of your back, they’re showing you support. This is only for the upper part of your back. The lower part means a whole different thing, girl.

This is probably what you want to actually know. When a guy touches your lower back, it shows that they’re attracted to you. The lower back is a sensitive part of the body, so you’ll feel their touch more intensely. Oh, and pay attention to the duration of their touch. If they touch your lower back for a longer period of time, it shows their level of attraction. [Read:18 physical aspects of a girl that drive men crazy]

Well, most of us know that legs are a big deal for men. It’s very rare that you’d find a guy saying, oh no, I don’t like nice looking legs. Now, if you find a guy touching your legs, it’s a sign that they’re definitely into you. With a leg touch, they’re testing the waters, seeing your reaction before they go any further. Sexually!

Hands are made to be touched. Hands are a little tricky because we use them for everything. They’re made to hold, carry, pull, and push. Of course, a high-five or handshake show positivity but doesn’t mean anything romantic. But is that paired with prolonged eye contact? If it is, then it means something a little different. [Read: 16 signs he wants you badly and is extremely sexually attracted to you]

If he’s standing behind you, you won’t be able to make eye contact unless you want to look like an owl. But if he touches you and makes eye contact, prolonged eye contact with you, well, he’s clearly into you.

Sorry, girls, but this type of touch isn’t giving off “more than friends” vibes. When someone puts their arm around your shoulders or grabs your shoulders, it shows a sign of appreciation. You’ll see this happen with friends and classmates, people that aren’t close to you. He’s just trying to show his appreciation, nothing more than that. [Read: How to read mixed signals and turn it into love]

Now, sometimes people can touch you non-sexually without any motive. Rather, they just touched you to move you out of the way or get your attention.

But if you want to try to figure out what he’s feeling, then look at the duration of him touching you. If it’s quick, it could mean anything, but if he touches you for just a little bit longer than normal, that’s your sign. [Read: 17 subtle ways to touch a guy and make him lose his mind]

Maybe you know this sometimes can be a sign of attraction, but not when it means something else?

Would you like to learn how to make sense of this physical contact?

If so, you’ll enjoy this article. It includes 11 possible reasons why a man might touch your face.

Hopefully, you’ll be enlightened about his behavior after reading this guide.

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With that said, let’s now focus on this man touching your face. Why is he doing it? Does he like you? Or is something else going on? Scroll down to find out.

If a guy touches your face several times, especially if he does it with only you, it means he likes you and he is attracted to you. When a guy touches your body, his body language usually changes so as to communicate his intentions to you non-verbally.

He may exhibit his sentiments towards you in other body languages such as looking at you frequently and looking away fast when you turn to look at him in a group, he stands close to you, finds ways to touch you a lot, gets jealous to see you with other guys, etc.

A guy will touch you because he is trying to inadvertently let you know that you are unique to him. You ought to pay attention to his body language when a guy touches your face, he shows a bunch of different cues that align with his feelings towards you.

A man will touch your face because he wants you to know you are protected. This action especially comes to play when a man wants to reassure a saddened lady he likes. He will cup her face in his hands, or draw her chin towards his face to maintain eye contact with her so that the lady will know that he is being sincere about what he is saying.

Men love beauty a lot! When a guy touches a lady’s face, it means that she is beautiful to him. So when he touches her face and looks into her eyes, it is a means to take in all that beauty into his mind, so that he can remember her features in her absence.

It may, however, seem that the man may not be able to take in all the beauty and will keep coming for more, especially when he is attracted to the woman.

Some men will touch a lady’s face to show his dominance. This way, he can show his higher position. If this happened to be the circumstance, it is very possible that he would hold your face in a firm and direct way especially in a place where people are likely to notice.

Other body languages a man could exhibit in this circumstance include looking at you through sprinted eyes, interjecting when you are talking, standing in an imposing or domineering way, i.e. a way that makes him look bigger than you.

Another possible reason could be that he is simply flirting with you and trying to gain your attention. He does this by softly rubbing his hands on the side of your face or by stroking your cheeks gently. This is highly indicative of sexual attraction.

When a guy touches your face, it could mean that he is comfortable enough with you or you with him, and that means he can touch any part of your body with your permission, of course. Not just anyone is permitted to touch our faces.

Most men know that touching a lady's face is off-limits-However, some men see this risk as worth taking so that they know the lady’s stance based on her reaction or body language. A lady who does not like her face touched will recoil from the man’s hands and put up a front.

But a lady who endorses the touch will make sure she keeps her body still so that she can feel the man’s hands on her face. The best part of this risk is that men leave this encounter with an answer.

When a man touches your face, it is a sign that he intends to communicate feelings of tenderness, gentleness, and kindness to you. He is trying to tell you that “hey! I need you to trust me and I am here for you if you need me because I have a soft spot for you”. This is a sign that he deeply cares for you.

When a man touches certain parts of a lady’s body, it is indicative of his feelings and intentions towards you. For instance, when he holds your hands and maintains eye contact with you, it is a sign that he likes you.

A face is one of the parts of the human body that gets you attracted to a particular person. So when a guy tries to find a way to touch your face each time you are together, it is a sign that he intends to get closer to you or he wants something more than a platonic relationship.

A man could be also joking with you if he touches those parts of your body you consider a no-go to strangers. This is dependent of course, on the relationship and situation you both happen to be in. He could playfully pinch your cheeks, or slightly slap them, not in a manner to induce pain though, but softly, to convey a message of a hearty moment you both may be in.

To conclude, there are many reasons why a guy will want to touch your face. One thing however is apparent; that you two are familiar with each other that he could do that in the first place. You need to be observant so that you don’t read wrong interpretations into his body language and act in a way he will consider absurd.

Take note of the circumstances and situation in which these acts happen so that you can make a reasonable deduction from his actions, so as not to embarrass yourself. But if after reading this article, and you realize that he likes you, and you think the feeling is mutual, well, go get him!

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Men and women exchange body contact all the time, in many situations. But sometimes, it’s hard for women to differentiate between contact that may have a sexual meaning, and that which doesn’t. Sometimes it’s even difficult to tell if he really likes you.

Here are some answers to this question:

We judge beauty by the symmetry and other facial features. Lips and kissing, on the other hand, are two of the most important aspects of our sexuality.

The importance of the face is obvious, and that’s why we rarely let anyone touch it. A stranger on the subway can touch our hand, but we won’t let him touch our face, and everybody instinctively knows this.

If a man touches you on your cheeks or any other part of your face, it’s a sign he desires to be closer to you, even if he is masking it in a neutral gesture like removing an eyelash. If he wasn’t interested in you, he would probably point it out verbally, and not go ahead and touch you.

The hair carries a big statement about our personality. It is seen by all and at the same time, it’s a way we send a message to the world. If a guy is touching your hair he is responding to your statement, most likely in a positive way. This doesn’t always involve a romantic motive, but it easily can. If he continues touching you, the probable answer is – yes.

A guy is really into you if he touches your neck. One of a person’s most delicate body parts is the neck. Your expression demonstrates how at ease you are with him and how close you are to him by allowing him touch your neck.

Hands are the part of your body designed for touching. A lot of social gestures like handshakes or high-fives are common place in many cultures. Mostly, these gestures are devoid of any emotion. Yet, the duration of hand-to-hand touch can say a lot about its meaning.

If a guy holds your hand longer every time you great each other, there might be something there. Be aware of this the next time he touches your hand in any way.

Maybe he is trying to tell you something.

For the majority of men, women’s legs are a big turn-on. A light touch on your thighs, especially if you’re sitting down and facing the man you’re talking to, is always a way to become more intimate. Sometimes men will act as if they touched you accidentally.

This is probably a way of testing your reaction. Usually, if they conclude you’re into them, the next touch will be a longer, but equally light, caress across the length of your leg.

This means that you are probably attractive to him, and he wants you to know it. He is most likely also interested in how you will take his interest and react to it.

It implies that he is not frightened to express his intentions to you or to risk your rejection.

Touching someone’s back carries a message of support and reassurance. It probably originated in ancient history, when people literally needed someone to “have their back”. But this is true for your upper back, and the area just beneath the shoulder bones.

If his touch gets lower, it carries a more intimate meaning. The area of the lower back is really sensitive and the longer a guy leaves his hand on this part of your body, the more you can be sure he is attracted to you.

In our culture, tapping on the shoulders is seen as a universal gesture of compliment. A boss will pat his subordinate on the shoulder after a successful project, and a sports coach will do the same to his players.

If a man touches you like this, he is either doing the same, or maybe using the opportunity to get close to you. This is even more likely if that guy is normally shy and introverted.

A woman’s sides, waist and hips have a strong sexual symbolism. In one sense, they represent the woman’s ability to bear children (remember those caveman figurines that represent women with enormous hips). If a guy is touching you in this area and you’re standing face-to-face, this is a clear indication that he wants to pull you closer.

Don’t be surprised if he tries to kiss after this particular touch, especially if it lasts for more than a second.

As you can see, touching can mean a lot of things in a lot of situations. Have faith in your knowledge about different touches as well as your gut feelings about them.

I think you understand better now what does it mean if a guy is touching you.

If you want to know more and know for sure if he likes you, explore  52 signs he likes you more than just a friend.

That’s the one question on your mind.

But he’s not yet made a move, so you are having some doubts.

What if there was a way to find out what his true feelings are simply by looking at him?

Well, there is.

His body is like a walking billboard – it’s full of signs.

Just by checking out a man’s body language, you can get a pretty good idea whether he is attracted to you and interested in you.

What things should you pay most attention to?

Well, there are countless little things he might do, but it’s best to focus on the biggest and most obvious body language signs.

Signs such as these…

You know the type of smile that doesn’t just come from the mouth, but makes the whole face light up?

Yeah, those are a great indicator that a man is attracted to you.

If, when he smiles, you see his teeth and his eyes scrunch up a little, you can be sure it’s genuine warmth he is feeling.

It’s almost impossible to fake this type of smile.

A man will unconsciously want to impress you with his physique (no matter how big or small he is).

He does this by standing tall with his shoulders back and his chest out.

You’ll notice that his feet are planted squarely just a little wider than his shoulders. He may place his hands on his hips.

There is an exception to this, which is when…

When a guy is done impressing you with his power pose, he will probably soften his stance and get a little closer to you.

If he is taller than you, this may mean leaning down toward you slightly.

His proximity to you is partly for practical reasons so that he might better hear what you say, but it’s also designed to test your willingness to let him get close.

When a man is attracted to someone, he will want to look his best. Part of that is making sure his clothes are all in check.

He may fiddle with the cuffs on his shirt, adjust his tie, pull his socks up, pull his shirt or t-shirt down, or mess around with some other piece of clothing or jewelry.

Much in the same way as he wants his clothes to look on point, a man will repeatedly touch and move his hair so that it is how he likes it.

This might mean tidying it or messing it up, depending on the style he goes for.

His clothes and his hair form a big part of his overall appearance, and getting them right will give him a confidence boost.

This is a more subtle clue, but one that gives a very clear sign of attraction.

When he first sees you on any given occasion, his eyebrows will shift upwards briefly.

This gives him the very best view of you as you enter the room or lock eyes with him.

His eyebrows will drop after a fraction of a second, but they will remain slightly higher than when fully relaxed. This makes his eyes look bigger and his face more friendly.

When a man or woman is aroused or excited, their cheeks will naturally go slightly red. It’s a classic body language sign.

In some men, this is very noticeable, whilst it is more difficult to spot in others. And, of course, the lighting you’re in will determine whether you’ll be able to see it.

The key is to look for the change in his cheeks and not just red cheeks full stop.

After all, he may have just been outside in the cold, been walking or doing some other exercise, or have sunburn!

Sticking with the face for a second, a guy will touch his face far more often around someone who he finds attractive.

This is partly because his skin becomes more sensitive, partly to draw attention to it, and partly because he wants to make sure it’s all in check.

Stroking of the chin or beard, touching his ears, and feeling his cheeks with the back of his fingers (often to check for blushing) are all common indicators to watch for.

Does his mouth stay firmly shut, or has his jaw line relaxed with his lips in a slightly open position?

The latter is a way for him to show that he wants to talk to you. It is a warm and welcoming expression that draws you in.

His slightly parted lips may also mean he is preparing for a kiss (or imagining what it would be like).

If you can, take a really good look at his eyes.

In particular, notice how big and wide his pupils are.

When a man is attracted to someone, his pupils dilate to let in more light so that he may get a better look at them.

If his eyes look like two big dark pools of loveliness, that’s a great sign that he likes you.

Without being aware of it, a man’s nostrils open up slightly whenever he is around someone he is attracted to.

This often accompanies the big smile, raised eyebrows, and parted lips to give the overall impression of a happy, kind, healthy person.

It may also coincide with him taking big, deep breaths to calm is nerves.

Sure, this will be clear if your hands ever lock together, but you can watch for signs of clamminess even when you’re standing apart.

He will try to covertly dry his palms by wiping them on his trousers or shirt. If he is sitting, he may put his hands face down on his knees.

If his hands are getting hot, it’s almost certain that he’s got the hots for you.

When a man finds you attractive, he might sit with legs wide apart, showing you his crotch.

This is, as you might imagine, quite a physically suggestive position, and whether it’s conscious or not, it is meant to tempt your eyes down ‘there.’

Now, men will often sit like this anyway, but around someone they like, it takes on a whole different meaning.

Conversely, if a man isn’t attracted to someone, they might actually pull their legs together somewhat.

If a guy is attracted to you, you might notice that his posture and gestures, and even his facial expressions start to mimic yours.

This mirroring is his way of building rapport. It shows agreement and harmony between the two of you.

We typically have more favorable opinions of people who look and act like we do, and this is how he wants you to think and feel about him.

So there we are, 14 ways in which you can read a man’s body language to tell whether or not he is attracted to you.

The keys are to look for multiple signs and consistency in those signs. If you see him a lot and he displays some signs each time, it’s highly likely that he likes you.

The beauty of body language is that it’s hard to fake, and it can be seen even when a man is particularly shy or is holding his feelings back for some reason.

So you’ll often be able to tell he is into you before his words reveal how he feels.

Remember, keep your eyes peeled!

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