What is vibe in love?

Lynsey Morrow, Sales & Marketing Manager

This is one of the best and worst comments I often hear about Campus North. It’s true, Campus North, in my humble opinion, has an incredible atmosphere. You can feel it as soon as you walk through the door.

I've been one of the Campus North team for just over a year now. I’d heard about the place many times before I joined them, but I never really got it. Surely it was just a building full of lots of companies? Big whoop. I didn't understand what made it so special. A considerable amount of time passed before I crossed their threshold. Then it hit me. I get it.

It’s largely (if not entirely) due to the community. There’s an incredible support network of like-minded, innovative, creative people. It’s hard not to feel inspired by them. You overhear many conversations by the kettle, or at Friday beers, of people sharing their problems, their latest successes, asking for help or talking complete nonsense. It’s organic, and it’s priceless.

I came across an article by Entrepreneur that summed it up perfectly. (Have a read of it here.)

If you've read any of our Quick Fire blog posts you’ll have realised that I'm not the only one who thinks this. Here’s a quick recap of some of the responses we received when we asked:

There’s something for everyone. Sometimes you don’t want to be confined to your desk. Maybe you want to lie on the sofa with a big mug of tea and your laptop rested on a cushion. Or maybe you need to take a private call, a communal space won’t cut it. Easy — Nip into one of the telephone booths. There’s quiet areas, those with background noise, cosy areas with sofas or beanbags and meeting rooms for important clients.

There’s colourful murals on the wall, an old school blackboard with a host of events, comic book wallpaper and coworkers who have windmills and confetti attached to their monitors. It’s not your typical office building full of lots of companies.

There’s no doubt that the flexibility and look of the space contributes to that “vibe”.

I love when people comment on the “vibe” of Campus North because I now know exactly what they mean. I know that feeling.

You can’t bottle a “vibe”.

My role in the Campus team is Sales and Marketing Manager. If I could bottle that feeling, that vibe, that buzz, people get when they first walk in, I’d be a very happy girl! (Then again, the might not need me if that was the case!)

• Have A Bit Of Curiosity. To create a successful vibe with her, you need to be curious about her, beyond her looks.
• Be Bold. Be impudent, a little cheeky and slightly irreverent when you're talking to her.
• Just Have FUN.

STOP!!! It’s time to smash that fear-based idea, now.

It’s fair to say that many people will experience “lows” in life and painful, hurtful, upsetting situations in their relationships. However, know that you don’t need to stay in that place.

Love, not pain and fear, is the way you can live a happy life and experience a nourishing relationship.

Most people are seeking life-changing love that lasts. Nonetheless you may be experiencing a disconnection from your significant other, or there may be some frustrating challenges and old or new relationship wounds that prevent you from having the love you truly desire and deserve.

So, is it possible to have a long-lasting, diamond-dazzling, healthy and fulfilling relationship with a significant other where there is true intimacy, love, authenticity, and fun?

Yes, it certainly is!

How?

By controlling your vibes.

Are you in control of your love vibes?

One of the best gifts you can give to yourself and to your significant other is your positive, loving energetic vibe.

Your emotional state holds an energetic vibe and different emotional states have different vibes.

In a love relationship, you are intimately connected energetically with your significant other and as a result, you can pick up on their vibes. For example, have you ever had a feeling that your significant other wasn’t in a good mood without them even saying so? Or have there been moments when they were smiling and happy, and you started to feel uplifted too?

Understanding these vibes is vital, as they can get you more or less of what you want in your relationship.

You can be the person who lights up the room! 😊

What are these vibes?

There are low vibes: Anger, Fear, Worry, Jealousy, Hate, Bitterness, Pessimism, Guilt, Shame, Regret…

This is the energy that has a negative impact on our romantic relationships.

And then there are high vibes: Love, Understanding, Compassion, Kindness, Forgiveness, Joy, Positivity, Optimism, Acceptance, Empathy…

Being conscious of the energy you’re bringing to the table is essential. If you change your vibes, you change your love life.

You have incredible power to shift the dynamics of your relationship, by directing your energy in ways that allow you to attract what you want. You may not be able to change your significant other’s mind or behaviour immediately, but you can choose to have high vibes, which will affect them in a positive way. You’ll notice they will unconsciously start corresponding with your energy and will become magnetically drawn to you!

Consequently, it’s very important to have clarity on what you want out of love and your relationship, because what you focus on is what you receive. This involves you thinking about how you WANT TO FEEL in your love relationship.

If you’re constantly focusing on what you don’t want and how you don’t want to feel, you’ll be holding low vibes and guess what’s going to show up in your relationship? More of what you don’t want! #OUCH

Here are 4 steps to raise your love vibes:

1. Close your eyes, touch your heart, and breathe.

2. Recall.

Think of a time in your life, any time, when you felt good and content. It could be when you felt unconditionally loved, supported, or appreciated. Perhaps it was in a romantic relationship (past or current) or it might have been with family, or even in a moment of solitude.

3. Visualize.

As you look back at that experience, go into the image within the depths of your mind. What do you see? Be really present to how you feel in this memory. The mind doesn’t know the difference between visualization and reality, so really feel everything in the image. Because feelings are the energetic force that makes it all happen, by doing this you’re increasing your energetic vibe.

4. Stay “high-vibe” and connect.

Once your feelings are elevated, do your best to continue with your day remaining in this high vibe. If you feel your vibe starting to dip, repeat this 4 step process.

And when you’re feeling high-vibe, this is a fantastic opportunity to find ways to spend time deeply connecting with your significant other. A couple of ideas…

You might choose to just hang out. If so, get creative about the time you spend together. Could you have your very own “moviefest” evening with some of each other’s favourite flicks and snacks? Could you make the effort to get involved with some of the things they love, even if you’re not the biggest fan?

A simple gesture such as hugging them and feeling a heart to heart connection can also intensify closeness, as you will be giving off high vibes which will ultimately deepen your love. Give it a go when you’re feeling high-vibe and see if you can do this daily!

When you lead with high vibes, you aren’t just benefiting yourself; you can connect deeper with your significant other and have the fullness of your relationship that you truly desire and deserve.

As soon as this connection goes both ways, the chemistry is DIAMOND-DAZZLING and a recipe for Ah-MAZING love!