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Why does my mom call me everyday?

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A: Sit down with your mother and talk with her about your work, letting her know that at work your time is limited. Keep reminding your mother that personal calls are limited at work. This will take a while, but focus on reducing calls at work. Once that is accomplished, discuss with your mother the frequent calls at other times of the day and at night.

It is possible that your mother has too much free time on her hands. She may watch television, lose track of time and think she has not spoken to you in what seems to be a long time. Consider talking with your mother about what she can do during the day. Maybe she is able to perform volunteer work and/or to attend meetings at her town's senior center.

In addition, give her a notebook to write down what she wants to tell you. On the notebook write down the time you will call your mother or the time(s) your mother is allowed to call you. Then she can read her list of items to you. This is another way she will not forget what she wants to tell you.

There is something called low impulse control. For some seniors they need immediate gratification and everything needs to be now. Talk with your mother's primary care physician if you feel this is the situation.

Q: My father was able to paint, but with his memory loss he has lost his interest. Is there anything that I can do to help my father enjoy his interest again?

A: Yes there are a few ideas. Go to the library and take out some art books of artists your father always enjoyed. Allow him to look at the pictures. Sit with him and ask questions. If your father smiles and enjoys these books you may want to purchase a book for the home.

At another time, try giving your father some drawing paper and pencils - plus another piece of paper for you - and draw together. Encourage your father, but if he becomes frustrated remove the paper. Consider purchasing some books that children use; for example, the books when a paintbrush is dipped in water and then on a page the color comes through.

Lastly, the Alzheimer's Association has two volumes of a book called "The Best Friends of Alzheimer's Activities." These books can be purchased through Amazon.com. The books list many activities, such as ways to sponge paint using white paper, newspaper art (cutting out cartoons and photos from the newspaper and putting together a collage), and other ideas.

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A: Sit down with your mother and talk with her about your work, letting her know that at work your time is limited. Keep reminding your mother that personal calls are limited at work. This will take a while, but focus on reducing calls at work. Once that is accomplished, discuss with your mother the frequent calls at other times of the day and at night.

It is possible that your mother has too much free time on her hands. She may watch television, lose track of time and think she has not spoken to you in what seems to be a long time. Consider talking with your mother about what she can do during the day. Maybe she is able to perform volunteer work and/or to attend meetings at her town's senior center.

In addition, give her a notebook to write down what she wants to tell you. On the notebook write down the time you will call your mother or the time(s) your mother is allowed to call you. Then she can read her list of items to you. This is another way she will not forget what she wants to tell you.

There is something called low impulse control. For some seniors they need immediate gratification and everything needs to be now. Talk with your mother's primary care physician if you feel this is the situation.

Q: My father was able to paint, but with his memory loss he has lost his interest. Is there anything that I can do to help my father enjoy his interest again?

A: Yes there are a few ideas. Go to the library and take out some art books of artists your father always enjoyed. Allow him to look at the pictures. Sit with him and ask questions. If your father smiles and enjoys these books you may want to purchase a book for the home.

At another time, try giving your father some drawing paper and pencils - plus another piece of paper for you - and draw together. Encourage your father, but if he becomes frustrated remove the paper. Consider purchasing some books that children use; for example, the books when a paintbrush is dipped in water and then on a page the color comes through.

Lastly, the Alzheimer's Association has two volumes of a book called "The Best Friends of Alzheimer's Activities." These books can be purchased through Amazon.com. The books list many activities, such as ways to sponge paint using white paper, newspaper art (cutting out cartoons and photos from the newspaper and putting together a collage), and other ideas.

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I love the Captain’s advice. I’d like to add a story of how I managed a similar call situation.

For awhile in my 20s my mother would call me at home when I was at work. (She had my work number.)

She’d start calling at around 10am, and finish around 4pm. The messages on my answering machine would get progressively more upset (both worried and angry). Her thought process was that it would be interrupting to call my office, and surely I picked up the messages from my answering machine. (I didn’t)

Eventually she stopped. Instead she’d call me at work, we’d chat for a few minutes, and that would be that.

I no longer have an answering machine, nor a land line. Even so, if she wants me she calls only once.

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